Titos and Titas of Manila

I am highly addicted to the new trending group, Titos and Titos of Manila. It is a page dedicated to the not-so-young but not old enough to be called grannies. Basically, composed of people born from 70-80s. It has taken over everyone’s FB accounts in a matter of days… I enjoy it. As in super enjoy. I no longer sleep extra in the morning after taking a shower, I focus my time on the page. Seeing people with the same memory of our old lives is a breath of fresh air. It is so rare being able to see and interact with people who did the exact same things as me. I do not even relate to my husband in that regard because he wasn’t “fully” raised in the Philippines. I mean, he was a lil kid when they moved. He had a very limited stay despite his claims of being “raised” there. I’ll give him some extra points for being raised by traditional parents. Perhaps, he can somehow relate, like 70% hahaha.

Inasmuch as I like the page, I have a slight issue.

A lot of people who post on the page claim that it’s troll free, no bullies, no bashers, no war freaks, no jejemons (slang for overreacting teens with exaggerated taste in everything) because there are no millennials. I find that we are being a little hypocritical for entertaining that notion because first, the way we speak about the jejemons is a blatant form of bullying. The way we credit the peace and freshness of the page to its being millennial-free??? Bigotry at its finest!

If it were up to me, I will just claim being prejudice against the new age. I do not despise the people born onto this era, but I hate the era that my son is living in. This era thrived on technology and we lost all the fun of “real world.” Too bad.

If I am being true to myself, I will just admit that there’s an existing battle amongst generations. It does happen, we don’t need to sound righteous. We too are trolls and bullies. We gotta have the balls to accept that. Being mean, war freak, or being cyberbullies are not limited to age (the millennial-age for that matter).

I am also afraid to get bashed if someone gets to see this blog you know…because yeah, we too are bashers… strong resilient keyboard warriors. We are just in denial.


The Button

My husband often asks me as to why I love engaging in things like forums, debates, and even to nonsense stuffs like showbiz, tabloids and gossips. I would give him a stupid answer like, “because I thrive in knowing that somewhere in this world, someone just wishes to pound my head really hard”.

Reminds me of this parody: THE BUTTON


In reality, I truly wanted to be a lawyer. It kills me seeing people agree to inhuman actions for the sake of the greater good. It gives me Komodo Dragons in the stomach knowing that people I respect and think highly of are there, following a cult. I just want everyone to get the proper processing, proper trial, proper judgment, and proper punishment. I am a Christian who support death penalty but not EJKs.

There is no right and wrong at this point because each party would give insanely intellectual opinions (let us disregard the mere trolls). As for me, I refuse to accept the opposing party, I am certain they won’t accept mine too.

I am way past convincing people to see what I am seeing. Because they believe the same, I should be seeing what they see. At this point, we’ve resigned to hoping converting one another; we have just lived ourlives knowing that we think we’re being stupid.

I have read a blog from a contact whom I have known only in blogosphere, he made a sensible suggestion that if each of us would speak to a user or an addict at the peak of his addiction, convince him/her to get help, instead of being cyber punks attacking one another, we can make ourselves useful at least!

I just hope we wouldn’t run into that particular addict from my place who took a jungle bolo and cut his other arm off as the devil told him so (like Devon Sawa in Idle Hands perhaps?), I mean easier said than done right? What if the addict is currently on a trip and sees you like you’re a giant pork lechon and just chopped you off instantaneously? Man! It’s hard.

Reasons, reasons, reasons! Never ending reasons.

But what the blogger said made a lot of sense; we can do things bit by bit. Like how evangelism works… You don’t stop at a soul, you move forward, one after the other and maybe, we can have a village of Christians, a municipality of Christians, a province of Christians, a country of Christians — a world full of Christians!!!

And if we do, and we have Christ in the center of ourlives, who needs drugs right?!

About the blog, yes, you got the idea; it’s a matter of small continuous steps til we reach the goal. Otherwise, we are just being mouth-breathers.

Power Trips on Social Media

I had few social media stressors yesterday. It is about a celebrity (member of a local group) who died in an accident and that stupid commenter who said that she wishes that it was ______________ who died instead (naming another member of the group that the guy who died belonged in).

After that, a very powerful celebrity (a friend of the deceased) who is widely known for his tactlessness, offensiveness, and his crassitude used the social media to give his opinion about the girl who left the insensitive and dumb comment saying, “Wait for me to be back (he’s currently in NZ) and I will have my people look for you, you demon!” It was stronger in our language (which was originally used).

I just made a simple comment on the thread that I get that the girl who commented about the death and wishing for the one who died to swap situations with a less favored member (probably) whom she named – she is stupid and dumb, no other way to describe her behavior. She did really make a nonsense comment especially to a post uploaded by the grieving party. There is no excuse for her stupidity but what I don’t get is this celebrity using social media to place threats on people. He is even lauded for that! Like you will have people search for her and then what? What will you do? A lot of people commented on my reply that it’s not a threat and that I was exaggerating. How is it not a threat. A bomb joke despite how jokingly delivered and despite the obviousness of it won’t be treated a joke in the airport! If this girl died and we are in the US, I am sure that this famous celebrity will be instantly a person of interest, may not be the suspect, but yes, a POI.

From where I came from, “people on-the-seat” would even wipe their butts (instead of subjecting them to scrutiny) because these powerful celebrities are given so much entitlement without considering that the effect of their tweets is so much different from the effect of that silly girl’s tweets. These are the celebrities who tend to abuse their “acquired authority.” Not all are abusive, only those who have recently acquired instant fame. Like IF we’re talking about the elite and the rich, they are definitely NOT the so-called “old rich.” They are the “lottery kind of rich.”

I of course, (jokingly) suggested that she must get a restraining order against that celebrity because he can just abduct her or something, basing on his statements on social media. Plus, from where I come from, fans of oppositing fandoms reach up to physically beating one another, due to uber fanaticism. Some are paid, some are purely fanatical. We wouldn’t want to become victims of his fandom. I mean, how sure are his defenders that there isn’t an insane fan who would take his words into extreme level.

Plus, going back to his previous statements, he’s made fun of special children, the overweight, the ugly, the handicapable and even joked about someone being raped. Everyone just let it slide and now, a nobody (compared to him) has made an insensitive yet personal opinion, everyone will just support this celebrity who uses his social media power to bully people.

For me, what the commenter did is totally uncalled for and stupid, yes… but empathy cannot be forced on someone. It is a feeling one feels. If she isn’t able to feel empathy, then that’s her problem. We cannot dictate as to how one should feel on certain situations. It’s not right but that’s her opinion. Besides, these people we’re talking about are big celebrities, they subject themselves to the public eye, so yes, either be ready or be apathetic.

What can be done is that we just learn to ignore comments from people who don’t matter to us. Those who are insignificant to our existence. With that, we will not be affected by faceless morons who lurk on our social media and thrive on the anger they infuse — or worse, they weren’t doing it for anything, they are just plain stupid.